However, only the latter will in fact be evaluated by the M-RA’s test of psychological compatibility

However, only the latter will in fact be evaluated by the M-RA’s test of psychological compatibility

Of course, for men as well there may be a similar motivation that leads to consideration of the advantage of mating to a rich/high social status female partner (a classical fictional example is Maupassant’s Bel-Ami ). Much depends on the starting conditions and on the perspectives of each single individual with reference to the context and environment one lives in. However, the filter test that assesses the partner in terms of the opportunity of access to material resources presents a relatively high discriminating relevance for the overall success of the AA-administered tests, and in particular one that may even reinforce a possible opposition of the AA to the orientations of the RA.

4.2.3. Personality and Intelligence

Personality, intelligence, and cognitive skills cover a vast range of very important aspects of the filter tests, which include specific features of special relevance, such as emotional intelligence, charisma, sensitivity, value orientations, and experiences . When there is not a need to invest all attention toward social status and wealth, the F-AAs are very focused on singling out a partner that successfully passes the filter tests for personality and intelligence , possibly concentrating upon traits that are especially desirable in the social context of reference . Often, women, when asked about their ideal partner, typically start from personality traits such as kindness, affect, acumen, honesty, psychological balance, agreeableness, sense of humor etc. , and seem to lend less explicit attention to aspects such as sexual attraction, which is instead the basic criterion of the biological compatibility test carried out by the F-RA . This depends on the fact that the F-AA is active in the psycho-emotional sphere of the TU-C, and then expresses itself in conformity with its sphere of reference, in addition to the non-negligible fact that the passiveness of the RA generally causes it to retract and to be unwilling to be exposed through its expression, especially if it finds itself in a switched-off not-excited phase. Likewise, the M-AA, being instead active in the sexual sphere of the TU-C, to the same request for a description of the ideal partner instinctively focuses primarily on physical aspects rather than on personality and intelligence . The statement of principle, in practice, often does not correspond to the most satisfactory choice that will actually be made, not because it is not possible to find an intelligent man with a good personality who is also sexually attractive for a given woman, or a sexually attractive woman who is also intelligent and capable of psychologically stimulating a man, but because mere intelligence or good character do not suffice to determine the F-TU in the absence of sexual attraction. Or, to the contrary, mere sexual attraction, however intense, does not suffice to determine the M-TU in the absence of a psycho-emotional attraction in the man.

Consequently, men who choose their stable partner not keeping into account their compatibility with the personality traits and with the intelligence of the latter will give birth to a TU-C with feeble chances of persistence, whereas the woman who chooses her stable partner without taking into account her biophysical signals may be especially susceptible to spousal infidelity if she gets finally tied-up to another male subject.

4.2.4. Social Network

The network of acquaintances and relational connections represents a social resource, albeit intangible, which may prove to be as beneficial as status and wealth . Moreover, the filter test that assesses the extent to which a potential partner is embedded in a certain social network and contributes to its cohesion through pro-social behaviors , also provides indirect information on her/his personality (for instance, on her/his sociability and extraversion), on present or future financial and professional opportunities, or even on the level of appreciation by opposite sex subjects. In the case of the woman, much depends on the socio-cultural context: If it is egalitarian, gender equality leads to rather similar criteria for men and women in terms of appreciation from having a vast relational network, even if a woman with an overextended network of male friends is susceptible of a less favorable consideration . In contexts without gender equality, men tend to expect that the woman’s social network is essentially mediated by the family , and in the most restrictive conditions a network of relationships outside the family of origin becomes a negative factor in terms of salience, or even a serious social transgression , which may also lead to a global failure of the filter tests of the M-AA. As regards men, if they are embedded in a vast network of social connections, this is not seen negatively by women, and even if such a network includes a number of female acquaintances, this might even increase the female interest toward the man , even more so if the man already has, or had, an attractive female romantic partner . The reasons behind this difference may be traced back to a propensity to competitiveness, which in the case of women generally leads them to adjudicate the attentions of a much sought-after man, to win sexual competition against other female rivals. In the case of men, when it is a matter of being emotionally linked to one woman only instead of seeking sexual variety, psychological competitiveness intervenes, which in the presence of too many male competitors entails a loss in the value of the uniqueness of the man’s own exclusive compatibility with the woman.

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